{"id":4354,"date":"2015-05-01T08:12:00","date_gmt":"2015-05-01T12:12:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/vweisfeld.com\/?p=4354"},"modified":"2015-05-21T07:02:24","modified_gmt":"2015-05-21T11:02:24","slug":"11-novels-for-expectant-parents-maybe-not","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vweisfeld.com\/?p=4354","title":{"rendered":"11 Novels for Expectant Parents? Maybe Not"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_4355\" style=\"width: 290px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4355\" class=\" wp-image-4355\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/vweisfeld.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/9220312593_e6fc3d72a5_z.jpg?resize=280%2C187\" alt=\"pregnant woman, reading, Kindle\" width=\"280\" height=\"187\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-4355\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">(photo: Ed Yourdan, Creative Commons license)<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Electric Literature presents a <a href=\"http:\/\/electricliterature.com\/11-novels-that-expectant-parents-should-read-instead-of-parenting-books\/?omhide=true\">compendium of 11 books<\/a> expectant parents might want to read instead of parenting books. Compiler Allison Gibson hit on this idea because the books she read while pregnant were \u201cboth too specific to prepare me for what I ended up encountering and too generalized to grasp before I even had a look at my own son\u2019s face.\u201d I had one of those very specific books, but I found it reassuring. <em>There were answers. Somewhere.<\/em> If I could find the book under piles of laundry, toppling stacks of diapers, and a storage unit\u2019s worth of babygear.<\/p>\n<p>Gibson quotes award-winning writer Marilynne Robinson\u2019s view that fiction is \u201can exercise in the capacity for imaginative love, or sympathy, or identification,\u201d which does make fiction seem both appropriate and vital preparation for greeting that diminutive stranger about to take over your life, 24\/7\/365\/forever.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some of the books that she recommends and why:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>We the Animals<\/em> by Justin Torres \u2013 to relish \u201cbright moments of outright joy,\u201d which actually seem few and far between for this family in the throes of domestic abuse<\/li>\n<li><em>Bad Marie<\/em> by Marcy Dermansky \u2013 to understand challenges facing new parents and their relationships, exemplified in this novel by the nanny who takes off for Paris with the toddler she minds and the baby\u2019s father<\/li>\n<li><em>White Oleander<\/em> by Janet Fitch \u2013 to confirm \u201cevery parent\u2019s dark suspicion that with the responsibility of caring for a child comes the capacity to do tremendous damage\u201d and<\/li>\n<li><em>More than It Hurts You<\/em> by Darin Strauss \u2013 the title tells all<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Nice try, Ms. Gibson, but I don\u2019t think so. Just the thought of reading from this collection brings up the visceral memory of an acquaintance who asked me, nine months pregnant,\u201cDid you see the interesting PBS show last night about SIDS?\u201d <em>Are you insane?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>All 11 choices sound like interesting and worthy books to read, sometime. Just not until baby is safely in college. Or married. Or . . .<\/p>\n<p>Another friend like to say that deciding to be a parent is \u201cdeciding to wear your heart on the outside.\u201d Special handling required.<\/p>\n<h6 class=\"zemanta-related-title\" style=\"font-size: 1em;\">Related articles<\/h6>\n<ul class=\"zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image\" style=\"margin: 0; padding: 0; overflow: hidden;\">\n<li class=\"zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li\" style=\"padding: 0; background: none; list-style: none; display: block; float: left; vertical-align: top; text-align: left; width: 84px; font-size: 11px; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px;\"><a style=\"box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; padding: 2px; display: block; border-radius: 2px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/blogs\/style-blog\/wp\/2015\/03\/31\/marilynne-robinson-confident-about-a-fourth-gilead-novel\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"padding: 0; margin: 0; border: 0; display: block; width: 80px; max-width: 100%;\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/i.zemanta.com\/334538411_80_80.jpg?w=584\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><a style=\"display: block; overflow: hidden; text-decoration: none; line-height: 12pt; height: 83px; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; background-image: none;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/blogs\/style-blog\/wp\/2015\/03\/31\/marilynne-robinson-confident-about-a-fourth-gilead-novel\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marilynne Robinson confident about a fourth Gilead novel<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Electric Literature presents a compendium of 11 books expectant parents might want to read instead of parenting books. 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